If you want a child with your boyfriend...

Get a puppy first. Like a PUPPY. My husband and I have a 3 year old and just got a puppy. He didn’t help much with our 3 year old, still doesn’t. My husband got the puppy and goes to the room when he gets home from work. Doesn’t feed the dog, plays with him for a few minutes. Yeah I get it he’s tired so the fuck am I. I watch our child, clean the house, do the laundry, run other errands. I should have known if he didn’t help with the baby then he wouldn’t help with a puppy. Yeah a puppy does get easier over time but right now it is not. It’s so difficult to balance a 3 year old and a 13 week old puppy. I talk to my husband through text more than I talk to him in person. He gets home and goes to the room the puppy can’t go to the room because we have carpet. So my advice is get a puppy first. It’s not a full commitment and child, your own blood is a full commitment.