Normal or midwife sucks?

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I've only been to military midwives or doctors with my previous 3 pregnancies and was looking forward to a civilian provider this time as midwives especially were supposed to be much better. 33W and she refuses to palpate my belly and help me ascertain what position baby is in, won't measure my fundal height even when I request it, and labeled me as GD when I declined the glucola test and asked to check my sugars multiple times a day instead because it would just be easier. 😡 There are no other midwives within 2 hours until after my guess date and the OB in town reccomends against breastfeeding so I'm not even bothering to see him. Is this the norm for civilian midwives or does she just suck?

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What!!! This all sounds absurd...why would she not measure you or check position of baby? You are getting close and this needs to be known, it’s regular practice to check these things. 🤦🏼‍♀️ and what kind of OB is against breastfeeding!? None of this sounds normal to me 😔 I’m sorry

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I’ve only been seen by military doctors as well. If I moved to that civilian doctor, I would definitely work to find a new one. None of that seems normal at all.

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I'm new to the civilian doctor thing this time too and it's really thrown me. It's so different. And I dread going to my appts because I'm sick to death of them telling me how big baby is and how I'll need a c-section and blah, blah, blah.

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Thanks everyone! My husband was trying to tell me that she didn't seem that bad as he was at this last appointment so I wanted to check how y'alls midwives were. I won't be birthing with her as I like to birth at home with hubby, but still wish she would have confirmed baby's position as requested.

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She seems like she doesn’t really care about her job and to be honest I wouldn’t want her delivering my baby. I don’t know if you can speak with someone or what but she sounds trash to me.

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I've only had experience with my current midwife. She started measuring my fundal height at 24 weeks. I agreed to the glucose testing, and it was positive so I have to go the diabetes clinic. If I can't manage it with diet they'll do a transfer of care to an ob. As far as an ob disagreeing with breast feeding that seems super odd.

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That’s awful! Your midwife needs to step it up. Mine are amazing if I called them tomorrow and said I want to get a growth scan they would set it up right away. What ever I want I typically get with them. I wish you could find someone different.

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She does sound like she sucks. I don't have a midwife, but my doctor's office is very midwifey and she checks my fundal height at every appt. She also will not check baby position until 36 weeks and no cervical checks before then either, but she does measure, do blood pressure, check urine for protein, and listen to heart with doppler at every appt.

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That doesn’t sound normal.

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Yeah midwife sucks.  I see several in one practice and they always check my urine,  measure fundal height, listen to heartbeat,  and check position. The position thing though they might just be waiting a bit on because baby can sil flip back and forth.

Normal or midwife sucks?

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