MIL Babysitting

Idk how long I can handle this! I’m extremely depressed knowing we can’t afford for me to stay home and care for our daughter. My MIL doesn’t work or anything so she will babysit when needed. My mom was going to babysit twice a week, mil twice and me on my two days off and husband his day and a half. Well my mom broke her foot and can’t babysit her anymore. So my MIL will have her 4 times a week. We told her if anything gets dirty, to not wash anything. We will do it. We also said she’s not ally to kiss her ever, since I wasn’t raised like that. I find it weird that MIL is desperate to kiss my daughter. Well the whole day she had her, I didn’t really get any updates or anything. I went to pick her up and nothing was packed for me to just grab and go. I was packing everything when she woke up, and I started to walk to go get my daughter and MIL walked in front of me, got my daughter and asked me if I wanted to hold her... when I said “yes?” She goes “ok. Go wash your hands” ever since having her, I can’t stand my in-laws. They converted a room into a nursery, they’re getting a bunch of items for them to keep at their house, they bought an SUV. Because I wasn’t raised like this, it makes me feel like they’re acting as if they’re her parents. Idk how long I can keep letting them babysit her! Every time I think about it, it just angers me! 😭