Verbal abuse

My husband is typically very loving towards me and our two children, but he has been known to have a bit of a drinking problem in the past and it had gotten better for a long time, but he seems to be drinking more and more again, every day of the week, he will have several beers and liquor too. When he drinks, he becomes very irritable, ans often even verbally abusive. He swears at our 4 year old( not only while drinking lately but any time hes frustrated) Nd any time i hear him do that and ask him not to or even look at him the wro g way, he flys off the handle. Tonight we were having a nice normal conversation about our kids and he kept interrupting me when i tried to speak, and so I said....thats not where i was going with this... and he lost his shit, starting yelling at mw and calling me names... idiot, fucking moron etc.

This is not the first time this has happened to me and it especially gets bad with the drinking.

He wont agree ro get help as he doesnt think he has a problem..also he wont agree to coounselling for problems with the marriage.

I know most women will just tell m to.leave him, but i vowed for better oe worse, and would love to save our relationship and keep.our family together. Any advice...suggestiona

..experiences to share? Feeling so confused....