Long but plz read ♥️😇

So we hosted a Christmas party the other night with our friends. My best friend is married and has been having marital issues with her husband. They’ve had “connection issues.” They both came together though and things were great and we were having a wonderful evening. Anyway, we were all having very deep convos, and my best friend mentioned she had a very hard time opening up. My husband then said to her, I think we are a lot alike in that way. She then says back, yes, I think we are kindred spirits in a lot of ways. When she said that remark, it rubbed me the wrong way... for both me and her husband. I know she probably didn’t MEAN it in any sort of way, as a lot of my girlfriends are similar to my husband’s personality traits. (I’m very type B personality, while I have a lot of A Type people in my life.) I really felt bad for her husband though, he is a great man. Very loyal and devoted to her, provides to her, literally idolizes her, and just wants that connection with his wife.

Just a little back history—this girl is like my sister. I love her to death, but she’s always been super competitive with me. She’s even told me that my marriage with my husband makes her jealous... because she wishes she had a connection with her husband like that.

With her having issues with her husband, I do not really want her around my husband too much... my husband and I have been together 7 years, are expecting our first baby, and are very much in love. He’s never given me a reason to not trust him. It’s her I feel uneasy about...

What do you all think of this? Is this a normal issue to have? For me personally, I would NEVER say I was kindred spirits with any man, especially a best friend’s HUSBAND. I will also say years ago, she got with one of her other best friend’s man... hence another reason I am wary about this. Lmk what you think. I swear this is why I cannot trust most women 😅