Do in-laws visit your house for Xmas or do you go to theirs?

I know there will be a ton of different situations and a mix of answers here. But here is my scenario. My family is out of state. My in-laws have always had every holiday to themselves. Now that we have a baby (1.5 years old) we have decided we really would like to setup our own Christmas traditions and own family time.

Every year we have a Xmas eve family party at their house. In years past, we come over Xmas morning and then go to a party Xmas night for the other side of the family.

We told them from now on we would like to have Christmas Day to ourselves and that they were welcome to come over in the afternoon. We still will be attending all the other family parties.

Today they tried to guilt trip us into bringing our daughter to their house on Christmas Day. They said they wanted her at their house. And that one day she would be asking to go to grandma and grandpas house on Christmas Day. Grandma said she has so many presents it would be a pain to pack them (they live 5 minutes away, and like packing our gifts and a baby isn’t difficult?) We told them it was important to us to have our own time, that with all the other parties happening, with how long it takes to get our family dressed and packed and also FaceTiming all of my family, it leaves us with very little time. They simply would not accept our reasons and kept pushing. So I told them we would talk it over.

I really don’t think we should need to explain why we want Christmas at home. But inviting them over is not good enough for them apparently and they think they have the right to more, regardless of how we feel or what we want.

This is how they are about everything and I am so tired of it. My husband defended us and ultimately told them if coming over is not enough we can have a separate Christmas at grandma and grandpas house on a day that isn’t Christmas. Hoping this will be good enough for them.

WTF!?!? I feel like they are so lucky to have every Christmas eve and Christmas night. They take it for granted! If my family was here they would get even less time. It always feels like it’s never enough for them!