Cant get a donor

My husband and I have been trying since April 2016. We have had no luck at all. Even a miscarriage at this time would give me hope.

I'm 27 with endo(everything checks out good)

Husband is diabetic 1 with retrograde( SA found 10 dead sperm)

We are going to get a 3rd opinion during the summer but I am scared well just get the same news. Go straight to IVF no testing or figuring anything out.

Neither one of us wants IVF. I am to the point I dont want to miss my opportunity to become a mom I want to do a donor and keep trying with him. He doesnt want me to have a kid with someone else(he would have been fine if I had a kid before us)

He would rather find a sperm and egg donor and have me carry it. I feel like that's a waste of money to get an egg when I have fine ones.

I'm scared one of us will have resentment toward the other no matter what we do.

He has accepted he prob wont have kids. I cant accept it.

He asked how would I feel if it was the other way. I told him I'd rather have it one of ours then 2 strangers.

We plan on adopting but I want 1 biological kid first.