Am I selfish?

Is it selfish of me to not care about my families feelings? They want me to involve them in my pregnancy and life more but I just dont. The more they push the less I care. It’s starting to effect my bf and I feel it’s effecting him but I don’t care that they’re upset. Growing up my mom was abusive and because my dad worked I only saw him really on holidays or if I was in trouble. I want to be nicer or even fake that I care but I don’t. ( I was adopted so feeling accepted or wanted has always been hard for me ) my adopted dad is pissed because I hardly leave my room unless it’s so pee or eat or go get my bf from work. He is getting older so I should care but all I care about is me and my baby. I know they just want me to be open but I just don’t want to or care to. How do I make myself care? Growing up my mom called me a crack baby, I told my dad and he just called me a liar... I know it was a few years ago and I should move on but after that I just look at them differently, and because I don’t socialize my dad threatened to take me off his car insurance but the thing is... I DONT CARE, I don’t see that as helpful or make me want to even talk to them about anything.