Hide the gifts or leave it out?

So my SO and I have been having a rough year. We found out a lot of issues with me that make TTC damn near impossible. We went to a RE and literally every test they did brought bad news. I have already had one surgery and will have another one in January. It has been heartbreaking. My RE doesn’t seem too hopeful about IVF but we will give it one shot... all that to say...

I LOVE Christmas!! We don’t typically get each other too much because we meet our needs/wants throughout the year but this year we wanted to go a little bigger. We are thinking positive and celebrating our last year as just the two of us.

We are having a Christmas eve party for friends and cousins tonight and my husband thinks that we are throwing our Christmas in peoples faces by leaving all of the gifts under the tree. I just don’t get it.. we worked hard for this Christmas! Why should we hide it? We bought each couple who is coming a Ralph Lauren holiday candle ( retail value is $68). We are supplying food and drink. We are giving some of our friends who have no where to go, a place to celebrate the holiday. I think everyone who is coming tonight knows our hearts and what we are going through and would never judge. But my SO grew up with very little ( half the people coming are his family who don’t do a lot for Christmas because of finances) and it makes him uncomfortable. He said he got two gifts every Christmas and one of them was socks.

What do we do? Am I being rude?

Please excuse my crooked star, I must have knocked it over trying to shove as many gifts behind the tree as I could 🤣🤣🤣