How do you tell partner you're not happy?

Question

Background first...my partner is difficult. We have had up and downs but we have been going strong for about 3 years now. He doesn't like emotions or feelings and doesn't like talking about them. I've tried to accept his nature and learn to adapt but I am having a hard time.
My emotions go unnoticed.
My requests for affection are ignored.
I put every ounce of effort I have into him and it's rarely reciprocated.
We only have sex when he wants it.
I'm not happy. How can I tell him I am not happy without it leading to a break up? What can I say to ignite a flame under his butt and start to please me? 
The last time I told him " I don't think I am happy anymore." ...he immediately asked me if I was seeing someone else. 
I have gotten the responses " if you're not happy then leave, I'm not changing , ect".
Someone give me some ideas

Answer

Don’t waste your time expecting him to change for you. You just said how you are not happy and all he responded back was if you are not happy then leave. That says a lot about how much little he cares about your mental health and the relationship itself. Three years? Wow, that’s a long time. If I were you, I would start to focus on myself by get my stuff together and get ready to leave him for my own happiness. I left my ex of two years just because I was not happy in that relationship with him and no matter how many times I told him I was not happy and he didn’t even do anything. He chose marijuana over me and he always thinks of himself so I decided I gotta dump him or else I’d waste my life away. Now here I am being engaged with a three months old son with my fiancé who’s about to get a huge promotion soon. I’m forever grateful for my choice I made. If he truly cares for you, he’d do anything to make it better but his action is the opposite of that. So it’s time to think about yourself and your happiness.

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" if you're not happy, leave " is literally a cop out so he doesn't have to put in any effort. Stop feeding his needs if yours are not being met. Sit down with him and tell him you are unhappy and feel he puts zero effort in and that a relationship on his terms alone is not a relationship at all. Tell him what you need to see change otherwise you are gone. If he refuses to even talk about it or gets shitty about it than what's thw point of wasting anymore time with him. 3 years is more than enough of that bullshit.

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If he said “if you’re unhappy, leave” then he sounds childish. My boyfriend says crap like this too. I would like to think mature adults are willing to put effort in and compromise in order to save a relationships but in my experience, a lot of men think nothing is wrong with them and have too big of an ego to change anything.

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I know how you feel, you literally can’t please someone like this. He literally said “if you don’t like it, leave” I think that’s probably best for you.

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Sorry to hear you're going through this.
Have you thought of couples therapy? If he's not willing to do that, I'd say that telling him you're unhappy and ready to leave (if he doesn't change) is the only thing you can do.
But honestly, if you two are so different and it therefore doesn't work out, than it might be a lost cause :(

How do you tell partner you're not happy?

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