I’m on mat leave, so I stay at home with our baby everyday and at 4pm I pick up our 2.5 yo from gan & stay with both of them until 7pm when my husband comes home. This 3 hours I’m alone with them are really hard for me. I feel like both of them need something from me all the time & that all the time I need to be picking between them (also my toddler is having a really hard time adjusting to the changes the baby brought). So mostly I’m counting the

Moments till my husband gets home everyday but even when he gets home I only get a little relief. Today, we spent the whole day together all 4 of us because he doesn’t work on saturdays. At around 6 pm he told me he was going swimming & I begged him to stay until one of them go to bed because I don’t want to be alone with both of them. He stayed but he got kind of pissed because he says its the only day he can go to the gym & is not like he’s helping that much here. I didn’t answer because I didn’t want to fight but there’s plenty to help with if you aren’t doing it that’s because I’m am!!!!! So, my question is, is it legit for me ask him to stay? I 100% think that the kids are both of our responsibilities but I also think each of us should have sometime to themselves in order to be a better parent so that’s why I struggle with this (I’m not getting a time for myself at all right now because the baby nurses 24/7 so that’s probably part of the issue too)