My boyfriend’s parents....

Warning: long as hell

So I’ve been dating my boyfriend a little over 3 months. And over 1 1/2 of those months we’ve been telling small amounts of friends and family that (we trust will respect it) that we’re dating. A few days ago I finally told my dad (I haven’t told mom yet for reasons. She the last person I want to know) and was happy for me, asked questions about my boyfriend saw what he looks like and he seemed to approve about who he was.

Then he asked the question: “does his parents know?” I told him he only told his dad so far. Then he said “okay, but does his father KNOW?” What he meant was does his father know I’m black. My boyfriend is Peruvian/Puerto Rican and I’m a black Caribbean (🇯🇲/🇺🇸). My parents moved to the states when they were teenagers. And what my father worried about growing up like everyone else is racism. But what pisses him off the most is racism between minorities (like Hispanic against a black person).

I told him that no he didn’t tell his father that because they never really talk and also he didn’t see the reason to. But father’s demeanor changed and told me that he better finds time to tell him and his mom when he feels comfortable telling her. And that is none of them approved of the relationship then to break up with him because no one had time for that shit.

I thought he playing about the whole break up thing but he was serious and told me his experiences growing up and What he’s seen. And that it makes no sense to him why people act the way do.

Now I was getting a little nervous because what if his persons are like that? I was even more nervous when his mom still didn’t know about me yet let alone know his son was dating. I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 21 and his mom/son relationship is much closer than my mom/daughter relationship. She seemed so nice to him and he told me how close she is to him since he is the baby between his brothers.

The only reason why we told our dads first is because they were more lenient with this situation of dating but I know for a fact my parents are A ok with me dating outside my race when I was younger my mother encouraged me to do that when I got older.

I don’t know about my boyfriend’s parents though...so what now? I don’t want to break up my boyfriend over that potential problem I want to stay strong with him but I also don’t want to have to deal withi it if comes true.

What do you think??