When should I let my baby go around dads new girlfriend?

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So, long story short- my baby’s dad and I weren’t necessarily in a “relationship” when I conceived. We had been a thing off and on for about 5-6 months and decided to be exclusive but for whatever immature reason he didn’t want to be in a relationship yet. Yeah I know, I was stupid for allowing that. 
Fast forward- one month after I found out I was pregnant he started dating some new girl. That was hurtful enough. But whatever, he promised that she wouldn’t get in the way of his support of the pregnancy and his child. 
Fast forward again- around 33 weeks pregnant he decides he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby until there’s a dna test. Again, hurtful. But I couldn’t change his mind. He was partying in Mexico when I was giving birth. And didn’t meet her until we got the results at 3 months old. For obvious reasons I have hard feelings against him and the girl he ran off with. She knew I was pregnant and saw nothing wrong with him disregarding everything. 
Fast forward one last time- he has been great with her. Shows that he truly wants to be a good dad. I feel like while my baby is young we need to both bond with her together. He always wants to take her places without me or take her around his girlfriend. (Who has been extremely disrespectful towards me) 
And I just don’t find it necessary? Of course when she’s older, it’s inevitable...but she’s still just ababy (4 months) and I see no reason for her to be around the girlfriend? I just need time to heal, and it’s not that I’m letting my need for healing getting in the way of the child/father relationship...I just don’t see the need for the girlfriend to be involved quite yet.

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First off I don’t agree with you being bitter towards her for starting to date him. She didnt do anything wrong, he did . You dont know what he told her about you and it seems like you two were never right for each other. Dont take it out on her. But i will say this. I wouldnt be comfortable letting someone who has been in her life for just a month to take her for prolonged periods of time. He didnt meet her until she was 3 months old and she’s only four months old now? Or did i read that wrong. Yes of course he deserves to see his daughter and take her for short visits. And sorry to tell you but whatever he does during that time is on him. He’s the father and whatever he decides to do is completely his right. As long as he or his girlfriend aren’t harming your child you aren’t in any position to keep her from your child if he decides to take her around her. But i think going to court to get a clear visitation schedule and outline of custody would be great for you two.

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I personally wouldn’t allow it till they were serious like engaged/living together other then that no reason for some stranger to be around my child

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I feel it's to soon  for that for one he  questioned you about yall baby now he trying to pressure you about allowing yall baby to spend time with his lady no dont do it when she can at least do a little more but not now

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Id draw the line with the gf. Id have a dit down with baby daddy and tell him no because she is disrespectful to you and he wouldnt want other men around her disrespecting him. Its a two way street.

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And you know if he wanted to take her and not give her back he could if you haven’t gone to court to get full custody.

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Unless the relationship is like super serious like marriage serious there’s no need for her to meet the baby .

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Yeah don’t you never know. I wouldn’t allow it at all.

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It depends on how serious their relationship is, for me. I think you need to have a conversation with him and explain that you realize that someday she may be around your baby, but right now everything is too fresh and you just need time, and you’ll let him know when it’s okay. I also think it would be beneficial for you all to get together before you make the decision to allow this woman to be a part of your child’s life. I don’t think it would be right for anyone to go into this with hard feelings, whatever you all have needs to be put aside when dealing with the child.

When should I let my baby go around dads new girlfriend?

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