Natural Anti-Anxiety Meds ?

I was on Xanax for a while but I don’t like the fact that it knocks me out. I don’t like the feeling it gives me. I feel groggy and not myself though it doesn’t help w my anxiety and overthinking.

I’ve been taking Valerian Root every night to help me sleep. But, I was wondering do any of you take natural medications like Valerian Root that does not mess with birth control ?

My boyfriend and I have been looking for medications (bless his soul he’s been such a trooper helping me w my panic attacks and anxiety attacks) but they all either mess with birth controls effectiveness or there isn’t enough information.

I am open to anything really. I don’t want to be drugged up on Xanax every time I feel like I can’t control myself. Something I can take in the morning and be done w it and not worry about it affecting my birth control.

Thank you !!!