Just let me help!!

Let me preface this by saying my husband and I live in a shared space with his parents. Currently saving up money for our own spot. We are very grateful for their help and try to share responsibilities around the house as far as chores goes.

Well my husband recently got a new job but it’s graveyard shift. He will leave the house at 10:30 so he can start work at midnight til 8, then come home after 9:00. He’s tired and just wants to rest.

Well his parents have always asked him to do a list of chores while he was unemployed. But even after getting this new job, he’ll come home really wanting to sleep but they tell him he can’t sleep he needs to do this, this, this and that first. Some of the chores are physically taxing, like chopping logs and stocking and storing logs for the wood stove.

I have our four month old son, but I feel so bad for my husband. He’s about ready to pass out and they’ll still say to him that he really needs to carry his weight around the house. Well I’m able bodied too! I heard them getting onto him about the wood so I went down while baby was sleeping and got myself ready to go out and do it myself. But they want their son doing those chores, not me.

If I have the energy, I’m more than happy to help. I clean the kitchen, maintain the upstairs, do our laundry, feed and water our chickens, stock the firewood, stoke the fire throughout the day, take care of our son, and make dinner every now and then. I just wish they would let my husband have at least a small nap before getting to the chores. Am I being unreasonable and overstepping by feeling this way?