I had my reasons, I didn’t wrong anyone.

This is going to be long but I need to vent because idk if I’m over reacting or people are just too much.

I’m 22y.o and I’ve been living with my bf of 3 years in Europe for the past year. Before I came back to the states (to finish school) we found we were expecting. We are beyond excited and unfortunately my bf can’t enter the states due to visa issues. So we agreed I would come here to have the baby and then once me and baby are cleared to travel we’d fly home to be with my bf.

I came back and told my parents (I was 3/4 months by then) my father was livid. He was beyond upset and even told me I had to do something about it, regarding an abortion. It was so traumatic and he even left the house for a few days, and put a hole in my parents marriage. Needless to say I told no one else. He was so upset and I was scared if I told people he’d be even more upset.

Recently he’s gotten better and we’re back to how it was before I told him. About a week or two ago I decided time is now and started to tell people. So I’ve slowly told my grandmother and some aunts about my pregnancy.

I’m 24weeks now and my little one is due in April. Yesterday I told my brother and his fiancé about my pregnancy.

My brother and I have had a strained relationship and with my mother and I cancelling our attendance at the bachelorette party there was a lot of hesitation of telling them. They were supportive but upset I told them so late and felt I kept it from them.

My uncle also felt hurt I took so long to tell him. But like I mentioned I took my time because of how my dad reacted and I wanted him to be okay with it all before telling everyone due to my fears of getting negative reactions.

I really don’t understand why they feel I wronged them in not telling them earlier. I had my own reasons to not tell anyone. I was scared of reactions after my father, I had a health scare and frankly I wanted to keep it to myself and my bf for a while. It’s not like I had a baby and didn’t tell anyone till after. I have 3 months left and will have a baby shower. I haven’t wronged anyone and now I feel guilty for deciding to wait to tell people..