losing virginity help✌🏼 also no hate✌🏼

okay so like me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple months now and in the beginning of our relationship we both agreed neither of us were ready to loose our virginity but that was a while ago when we do hangout and it’s just me and him we make out in the back of his car and last night me and him had a conversation where we both said we’re ready to lose it and like we talked about how i need to start getting on the pill but how do i tell my mom? and i’m also extremely self conscious about hair down there i keep it trimmed and stuff but should i completely shave down there? and is there anything i should know or ig tips u could say before anything happens? please no hate✌🏼