Sexually flustered 😩👀

I don’t even know where to begin..

In my previous relationship ( abusive ) sex was the only way I felt like I mattered and my ex always wanted sex 24/7 and I don’t want to say I didn’t but I had a pretty low Lobito/ sex drive and every inexperienced Caused a lot of problems.. well I’ve been out of that for a year or so

My current Boyfriend talks a lot of game / flirts a lot but never actually follow throughs . We have sex 5 times a week for about 30 mins not that I’m complaining but I just need more , I need rougher sex .. not necessarily “ better” just more of what I want and how I want it.

He knows I’m kinky and like it rough and just yesterday I brought up I want to have sexy more and longer ect .. tonight he fell asleep without even a kiss goodnight .. so flustering.

He works manual labor and I know how tiring it can be , I don’t want to sound inconsiderate because this caused problems in my last relationship ( he was always tired when I actually wanted to have sex )

My current bf and I were talking previously and he mentioned he was inexperienced and hadn’t had the opportunity to try things with previous women ect..

I understand how he feels because of my ex but I don’t know what to do ..

Sure toys are great and I’ve used them before but I want the real thing, sweaty rough sex..

He says it’s because he can’t stop himself from finishing when he does ( always before me ) and I understand ( he says I’m the best he’s had ) but it irritates me that he falls asleep right after .. and we only have sex for 30-45 mins max ..

I just again and flustered.. it makes me want to cry at times 😩😩🙃