So what now?

Today I am 19+5. Yesterday I had two appts one with perinatology for anatomy scan. And one with my regular high risk ob. The perinatology office is over an hour away. On the way to the appt an accident happened a few cars in front of me which then had the rest of us following behind stuck with no way around and nothing we could do but wait. I was about 10 minutes away and called the perinatology office to let them know what had happened and that we were all backed up but I was on my way. The receptionist said as long as you’re here in 10 minutes. After that they may decide to reschedule you, not saying they would but they might. I said well it looks like they’re trying to wave us around and gradually let us through but im on my way as fast as I can get there. I ended up getting there 15 minutes later. Grabbed my 2 yr old out of the car and literally ran in and said I’m the one that called. Same girl said okay we’ll sit down and I’ll go see if they’ll still see you. She was gone for about 10 minutes she returned and said no we have a busy afternoon so it’ll have to be cancelled and rescheduled. But they said to let you know that next time it’ll be even longer than today would’ve been and you might want to bring someone to watch the kids in the waiting room because they might get restless.

So here is the dilemma. I am a single stay at home mom of 3 children. One of which is special needs, is medically home bound for school and. Requires round the clock care by me. The other two are ages 2 and 1 so they also require a lot of care and one on one as well. My oldest with special needs has difficulties leaving the home and only is away from home for appts he has to have regularly and then straight back home because errands and general car rides are just too hard on him. I don’t have anyone that can stay with them or that I can bring along to sit with the kids in the waiting room. I rarely have someone I can ask to stay with my son because only so many people is he comfortable with or know how to care for him and understand his needs. I was lucky enough to have had a family member that day that agreed to stay for 2 hours and not a minute longer as they had other things to do and didn’t want to be tied up. I had the other two with me.

So I don’t see how I can reschedule because I don’t have anyone to stay with them or go with me. We have not shared the pregnancy news with any family or friends because it would not be accepted and I most definitely then would be turned down for any requests because of them not being supportive and against it.

So since they cancelled me I left and went over to my ob appt. It was very short, vitals, heartbeat, quick prenatal lab work panel, and said we’ll see you in 4 weeks. How did everything go with maternal fetal medicine scan? I told him what happened and that I called and he rolled his eyes that they cancelled me and said great!

So since it doesn’t look like I’m going to be able to reschedule the anatomy scan I guess my question is what now? What’s next? I guess I just don’t have one? And if not then what do they do? It was such a stressful day. All that driving for nothing and wasting gas and getting stuck behind the accident and just all the things. I just wanted to cry.