Boyfriend and my mom drama

My mom is a strong character. My boyfriend is too. Same sign (Scorpio) my mom just has more of a I don’t care attitude and my boyfriend is a more responsible, do what I gotta do type of person.

When I first moved in, in a private convo my mom gave a ring to my boyfriend to give to me to know that “it is real.” He took it offensively. I tell him my mom just wants to make sure I’m ok. She’s always done her best to take care of me even dealt with my toxic exs. Our family gets along great! Just not my boyfriend or my mom.

My mom likes my boyfriend because he takes care of me, makes me happy, and is honestly the best relationship I’ve had. She doesn’t like him because he took me away. We live together. She gets really sad when I go home even though I try to visit as much as possible. She doesn’t show it but I know she feels it because family tells me. During get togethers she would look at him with resentment. She would ask how things are going between us. If everything’s good. He would feel like she’s trying to provoke something. Or getting too much into our business. When she just wants things to go good between us.

On New Years she made a speech on how she didn’t accept it at first but she knows he’s a good person. Which she is happy about and realized that if she is not happy for me than she is holding me back. So she in a way called truce but my boyfriend still thinks she is still against him. He still tenses up when she’s around and keeps his guard up. They act like they get along in front of each other.

I get along with his mom and I was quite shy as first but made the effort. Why can’t he do the same?

I want them to get along and I don’t know how. As far as I know I just gotta wait it out until eventually he accepts her too. I’m I wrong for being mad that they don’t get along? Who is in the wrong?