He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive my whole life. But for some reason it has gotten sooooo much worse.

I am trying to get a better paying job so I can move out and be more independent. Right now I don’t have the money to move out which means I live at home with my parents saving and saving.

My dad DEFINITELY has naricisstic personality disorder and anger management issues. I KNOW after being a psych major in college that he really really needs to go to therapy but would call me insane and absurd if I ever brought that up and of course would switch it around on me.

Yesterday he had one of his “outbursts” after my mom came over to me and said my dad said I was wearing too much perfume. (I wasn’t, it was the candle). My mom got pissed at my mom and upset. So he started going OFF on her saying “my life would be so much better without the two of you, and if I left you it would be amazing” (he has said this to us multiple times).

When I was younger, my dad always said to me. “If I kick you out and never see you again it would be the happiest day of my life.” Mind you, I was a great kid, never got into trouble, happy for lucky, and never drank or die drugs. I just wanted to be enough and I never was. The day before Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>, my dad order me, my brother and my mom around like we were his slaves. He again said” I would be the happiest man alive if I could leave all three of you, but you would never make it on your own.”

He has control issues and both of the days my brother and I moved into college he acted like an ass. He would throw things around and took it out on my mom. He didn’t like that we were moving away.

My mom is a saint and does sooooo much for everyone. She just takes it. She has always swallowed it and just says he doesn’t mean anything he says. He should’ve left his ass a LONG time ago. He doesn’t deserve her. My grandparents are well off and she could’ve lived with them until she got back in her feet! There’s nothing wrong with that!

No one knows my dad acts like this. I haven’t told a soul. Not a friend and I haven’t told my boyfriend yet.......if we ever move in together or even marry I will and will set my personal boundaries. I wouldn’t want my children to be around that.

I just feel so so so awlful for my mom. I don’t want my dad to be mean to her when my brother and I leave. I would Love to put his ass in a retirement home or something and she can live with me. She shouldn’t have to deal with that. Its just awlful.