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Bumble trouble, Updated

Hey so this is the first time posting on here but I thought I could use some advice.

So I joined bumble dating last week because I was feeling quite lonely. I only really have two friends and one of them is in Edinburgh most of the time. So I wanted to find someone to talk to and possibly hangout with.

Anyway I matched with this guy and he was really sweet at first and asking me loads of questions to get to know me and we seemed to have alot in common.

We where getting on really well of a few days but he asks me a question about what makes me uncomfortable. So I decided to be honest I truthfully told him that my weight made me kinda uncomfortable.

I'm not as skinny or as pretty as most girls. I can't do my makeup by myself and I struggle to look at myself in the mirror most days ☹️.

But I really thought it wouldn't matter you know. When you feel a connection it starts change how you feel about yourself. I mean for the last few days I've felt happier than I have in a long time.

So today after talking on the phone for about 20 minutes he asks me a personal question, " Are you a girl with a bit of body fat?" Again I decide to be honest and say yes but I am working on becoming healthier and slimmer because first of all I want to be healthier and secondly I want to feel good about myself.

After this he doesn't really reply and I ask him, "Does this turn him off me?" He replies , "Yes, that I'm not attracted to girls with a bit of body fat?" At this point my heart sunk and I said, "But does the fact that I have been talking to you for days and that I'm trying to get slimmer count for anything?"

He replies, " I don't know. Yours a really nice girl, but maybe just not my type." This really hurt me because I thought we may have been going somewhere but clearly I was wrong.☹️

So I have now unmatched with him and I go to weekly weigh ins to check how my becoming healthier progress is doing. This week I lost 5lbs 😊 which I'm really proud of.

I'm still on bumble trying to talk to other people but I'm kinda afraid now to open up to much incase I really get hurt this time.

I was wondering if any of you guys could share some stories of how you meet your SO either through online dating or other circumstances because I really don't want to give up on the chance for me to have a happy life with someone who loves me just for me???

Also do you think I should still be honest with others that I'm talking to on Bumble?? I don't to start a relationship on on lies or even half-truths.

Thank you all for taking the time to read my post .