So my mother in law smokes cigarettes.

I have asked my fiancé to tell her when she comes to OUR home to not smoke. (In the house , outside , up the block) because i don’t want my kids getting second hand / third hand smoke. Well it happens that my fiancé got furious with me . He says I’m asking his mom to quit smoking and I’m saying that she can’t see the kids. All in all I’m saying when she comes here to visit my children that she does not smoke because she stinks. It makes her hair smell, her breath and her cloths. Perfume doesn’t cover that up .

Everyone is saying i am making him chose me or his mom but i am asking her not to smoke when she visits so i don’t have to deal with the smell in our home and also so my kids don’t smell the cigarette. This is causing such a issue. She doesn’t think that she is exposing the kids to second hand smoke and my fiancé is not on my side. I think for the best interest for the children , she shouldn’t smoke while she comes to our home. She smokes inside her home and of course when we visit her i have no choice , but i DO NOT want my kids inhaling or being close to her after she has just smoked. Any advice ? I do believe this is a deal breaker for me. They are MY children and i have no support. I don’t think I’m being extra or crazy , i feel my intentions are pure to protect my kids. If it was me alone i wouldn’t care what she does while she visits but since i have kids. I do want to keep the air and the atmosphere clean. Everyone is saying i am making him chose me over his mother but the reality is. The kids shouldn’t be exposed to second hand smoke. So i feel he should support me when i say no smoking when visiting our home. She can smoke when she leaves and at her own residence. Advice !??