Let me just say this first. I love sex, I love having sex with my man, and I ESPECIALLY LOVE car sex. So anyway...

About two years ago I moved in with my boyfriend. And at first, things were kinda okay. I mean we did have sex every other day. But with time things cooled off - way too much if you ask me. I feel like I miss those days when we were sneaking around in the back seat of his car getting busy. I am kind of uncomfortable having sex in a bed. I know this may sound weird to some of you but it’s true. I don’t have anything to grab for support, the bed is always moving around plus when he’s on top I kind of get too stretched if that makes sense. I figure it’s because his thighs are huge and I can’t seem to spread my inner thighs wide enough. I can’t be on top for the same reason, so when we DO have sex now it’s some weird side position and that is getting too old. Plus, I have no idea how to tell him I’m in the mood, because every time he says he’s into it I always tell him no. It’s just like we’ve gotten out of sync ever since we started living together. I don’t know - it might be the routine, it might be that he’s always not home when I’m in and even if he is it’s just to eat, watch a movie, shower and go to sleep.

He has told me on several occasions he needs more sex. And when he does it’s usually to make me feel bad about not wanting to have any or to remind me how long it’s been which also makes me feel bad.

I know he’s frustrated with me and I don’t know how to explain any of this without making him feel bad about himself or making him doubt me because I do love him.

I just don’t know what to do or how to approach the situation so any advice is welcome.