Just a vent

I’m so frustrated. I’m getting an elective ultrasound next Saturday to find out the gender of our baby. This is our first, so naturally we’re excited! The room can fit 8 people in it, but 9 people are coming because I didn’t think that my dad and his wife would be able to make the trip up for it, but they surprised me yesterday and said that they were able to come. I didn’t want anyone to feel left out, but he volunteered to stay at our house and cook everyone lunch and then we could all come back and eat after. I countered with me and my husband just going to find out while we have everyone wait and hang out at the house together, and then we’d get a cake or something so everyone can find out together. My dad thought that this was a great idea, and I was very excited about the whole thing. I texted my mom the plan and she called me and said “nobody wants to sit and wait at your house. Why would you invite 9 people when you know that the room can only fit 8?!” I was very obviously hurt and explained that I didn’t do it on purpose, and she comes back with “well, I’m picking up Nat and Naomi (my stepsisters), no one wants to do that. I argue that her opinion is not the only one that matters and it’s not just about you. She quickly changes the subject and then gets annoyed when I’m noticeably hurt and upset. I’ve been so depressed for weeks and this was something that I was really, truly excited about, and she ruined it in less than 30 seconds. I honestly don’t even want to do any of it anymore. I’ve been crying on and off since the phone call and I’m so hurt.

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Os

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Your mom needs to realize these 9 months aren’t about her and her feelings. I’m sure they’ll give you a CD that you can pop in the DVD player and show everyone after you do the reveal cake. That seemed like a super cute idea to me instead of listening to 8 people breath while the tech looks for the gender and is taking pictures😂. I think it should be a moment for you and your husband to enjoy and deal with your feelings there (gender wise, if y’all had your heart set on boy or girl) and then take it home and see everyone else’s reactions. Your dad seems really sweet and understanding though. If anything tell her if she doesn’t want to wait that you’ll call her when you’re on your way home and she can meet y’all there if she wants to be apart of it🤷🏽‍♀️.

Os

Ossee🤍 • Feb 10, 2020
Just don’t let it ruin a really special and exciting day 💜.

Sa

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I didn’t want anyone but my husband in the room with me. All of the grandparents and great grandparents came down. We all went to dinner that evening and each got to pick a girl or boy cupcake. Then they all bit in and found out. It can be very personal, it’s 100% your choice. They ended up having to do a vaginal ultrasound for me. Uh what if others were there for that!!!