The moment I understood what my husband meant when he said he wasn’t ready

My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. I meant him when he was a 22 year old senior in college. When I met him I saw a man with so much passion and fire and a potential to be extraordinary. As I got to know him I realized that he was deeply traumatized, hurt and lost. Throughout the years of us being together he has had several accomplishments like joining military, getting his 3rd degree and so many others. We got married in 2017& i felt like it was time for children. My husband always envisioned himself being a dad and raising children of excellence but always said he wasn’t ready. I say what else do you need? We are happily married with jobs. I just recently watched a few interviews of The Therapist on YouTube, where the therapist has a real deep session with rappers and you can see the light where there was darkness.

That made me realize that my husband has so many issues within himself that he has to fix, heal, grow from in order for him to be worthy of his children. He constantly shows me signs that something that occurred 20 years is bothering him and it shows when he’s upset, when he feels like his voice doesn’t matter.

He is from the ghetto and like many residents, he has stories, & experiences that no child should have to endure. I decided to talk to him about getting individual counseling and he agreed.