To mums. I need advise

My 11 month old daughter is becoming a nightmare, she hates people other than me and my partner, she won’t let people talk to her or come anywhere near her and if they do she cries, even family members. Can’t hold her or talk to her

she also doesn’t sleep, in the day will nap for about an hour. My friends baby. Will have 2 long naps a day and then sleeps 6-8. But at night when we put her to bed (she won’t go to bed on her own you have to hold her) we put her to bed at 7 and she will have an hours sleep then wake up and not go to bed until 11, we have tried not putting her down until 8, but the same happens. Even leaving her to control cry she will cry for hours until we come to bed then i have to settle her. My other half is not supportive at all. He does what he wants when he wants and just falls asleep on sofa in an evening and leaves me to deal with everything, and he’s not very hands on with her so I can’t leave her with him for some me time as he will come find me (if I’m in house and leave her with me) or continually call me if I’m out. I just need some me time in an evening. But she’s not going to bed until I am then won’t settle in her cot so she’s asleep in my bed. And still waking up twice in the night for feeds Any advise to help, I’ve tried the getting her in routine. Dinner play, bath bed. She wakes up after an hour, I’ve tried leaving her to see if she will go back off to sleep, she won’t just cry’s for hours. Any advise to solve or at least help with these two problems would be so appreciated.