Avoiding judgements

FTM, my little guy almost going to be two. He is super active and friendly, very social. However, as a typical toddler, he screams, throw tantrums anywhere he like. I have always been a person who don’t care about judgemental people. But, now, if he does something like this, when everyone sees me like I have a uncontrollable and misbehaving child. I have seen the way my friend (not close) looked at us when he threw tantrums. Her kid is super quiet. I stopped going for play dates as she was telling her child to teach mine how to be gentle and quiet. They’re not even two :/ This makes me very stressful and I have no idea how to get over it. As a mom, I shouldn’t worry about what some stupid people thinks. But, somehow, subconsciously, I’m paying attention to them. Has anyone went through this? How do you deal with this? Am I doing anything wrong? I calm my son down either by distracting or tell him or wait until he done with his tantrums. Sometimes, it works. Sometimes, it doesn’t.