I moved across the country to be near my SO (Michigan) after meeting him in my home state (Arizona) while he was doing an internship for school. I planned on going to school here but sudden financial issues prevented that. He is going to graduate this December and we've talked about going back to Arizona permanantly a few years down the line if the opportunity comes up for a permanent position for him down there. We both love it there and he definitely wants to end up there or a neighboring state eventually. Well his current internship has offered him a permanent job starting January 2020 and basically is saying "youve done so well and made a huge impression everyone wants you on their team so we will make a position for you anywhere you want." Including Arizona. He said he accepts the job offer and will think about it and let them know which position he wants later on (the deadline is September) All I've wanted since moving here is to go back home. I hate everything about Michigan. I don't understand what there is to think about. It's like we are being handed everything we want and he's still not sure if he wants the position here or down there. Its possible if he turns this down it could be a minimum of another 5-6 years before he gets the chance to transfer. I know this is petty but I gave up everything my friends, family, job, school etc to be here with him while he finished school. And I have not been able to make friends or find a job I enjoy or go back to school no matter how hard I've tried. Ive gotten so depressed and my entire persona is so much more dull and glum than it used to be. I love him more than anything but I told him I need to move back to Arizona wether or not he chooses to go down there to work post graduation. He fully supports me doing this which makes it even more confusing. He encourages me to look at apartments with my friend down there and her bf and to make sure its big enough for 4 then talks about him moving in after graduation too but then another second he is saying I should do whatever I think is best for us since he's not sure and not to plan anything just for him. He is avoiding sitting down and actually thinking about making this decision for himself. I don't want him to move just for me I want it to be because he wants it too but I thought we were on the same page about this for the last 2 years and suddenly we have a chance and he doesn't know if he wants to take it. Granted it's an offer made 3 years sooner than we planned but I feel like this is a saving grace because we are both completely miserable here and have nothing to lose by moving to Arizona. If anything we have so much opportunity and quality of life to gain by it. I just don't see the dilemma and it hurts me. He knows this we've communicated but he still just says he has to really think about it more. It makes me feel like he's evaluating me not the job even though he tells me it's not that.