Do I Go for What I Want or Give In??

Hi All,

So back in October I posted a topic asking for advice on how to handle the situation of me wanting a larger wedding and my BF wanting to do a courthouse wedding/elopement.

Well here I am again because the topic came up again and I’m confused on what to do. He tells me he wants to give me my dream wedding and he’s been working his butt off to make more money to save, well I ended up losing my job and as such saving for a wedding has been put on the back burner.

So little side note...I used to ballroom dance when I was younger and as a Christmas gift my sister gave me a Groupon for two private dance lessons at a local studio, I was so touched!! Well I set up the first lesson and despite my BF DESPISING the idea he agreed to go with me. Well when I tried to talk about it all he’d say is “okay” or that he didn’t want to talk about it. So I made the decision to go by myself because I knew my BF’s bad attitude would ruin the entire experience for me and I just want to have fun.

Well this reminded me of the fact that when it comes to the wedding he refuses to dance, except for a couples’ dance but I know he’ll be dreading that and he refuses to do a mother/son dance even though I know his mom would love it.

The whole dance lesson thing got me thinking that if he has a bad attitude about the wedding then it’ll ruin the entire experience for me too and I’m debating on if I should just give in and do an extremely small wedding/elopement despite wanting to do more. I know marriage is about compromise and I am willing to do something small and cut corners where we can and make the wedding D.I.Y as much as possible but I feel like I’m fighting against a brick wall here. It also feels near impossible to save enough for a nice wedding and do it on a small scale because everyone jacks up the price when the word “wedding” is mentioned. Plus I don’t have a ton of friends so it’d be a very limited bridal party, I just am wondering if I’m fighting a losing battle here and if I should just give in to the courthouse wedding and call it a day.

Thoughts?? Advice??

Thanks in Advance 😊