Friction - what can I do?

There’s unresolved friction between me and my in laws. They have no interest in me and view me as an incubator. We host them every 6 weeks or so but I find the visits intense and difficult, they don’t initiate any conversations with me. We also don’t really have anything in common and I get very little help, so hosting them is exhausting. They are however caring when it comes to my child (1 year old) which is nice now, but at the beginning were quite over bearing. We’ve only visited them twice in the last year, which is no less than we did before kids came on the scene. They appear to have increased their expectations though, in particular wanting me to put more effort in with them, when really it should be my husband making more effort in contact, as such they have become indifferent towards me.... because of course it’s always the daughter in laws fault right?!

I don’t want to go out of my way for people who are unkind.... but on the other side of things they appear to be good with the toddler.... is there anything I can do to improve things?