Feeling so defeated

Hi everyone, I'm really struggling at the moment and feel like I'm too involved and need someone else's perspective on the situation I'm in.

I have been with my partner for just over 2 years, and we have a 1 year old daughter. From the very start I knew he suffered from serious depression and anxiety but it wasn't too bad at the beginning and since we were in the 'honeymoon' stage I guess it didn't really show.

We had a great sex life for the first 6ish months and ever since then it's gotten less and less to the point now it only happens maybe every 3 or so months. I feel rejected, ugly, unwanted and unappealing. I feel like I'm only a mother now, not a woman who also has needs.

I have brought this up multiple times and each time he tells me he will see a psychologist and get the help he needs but always says he doesn't have time to go organise it.

I have said to him I need things to change otherwise I'll end up resenting him and hating myself even more. Apparently I'm making this all about me but the thing is, he won't open up to me so how am I meant to help him. I want him to see a psychologist because I feel like it would help him and also our relationship.

Tonight, he told me he doesn't know if he wants to be with me. I'm too much he says and he wants to have space but I'm always home with my daughter so what does he want me to do? I never tell him he can't do anything, he just assumes that the way I say things actually means I'm saying no to him even though I'm perfectly fine with him going out. Sure it can be frustrating sometimes since he gets to go out and I have only had one girls night which only lasted a couple hours.

Thank you if you have read this far, I'm just so lost and unsure of what to do. I love him but I'm always upset because he doesn't show that he feels the same even though he says he does.