Some advice please ☹️

I’ve been w my bf for almost 3 years now. I love him so much and generally are very happy with each other. I just find myself wondering if I am depending on him TOO much and expecting too much from him nowadays instead of also working on my independence while being in a long term relationship.

I guess I just noticed myself getting upset or disappointed when things don’t happen. For example, I just asked him to play a game online w me but he said he wanted to play with his friends instead (which totally fair) but I found myself getting disappointed? And my rational self I knowing that that’s no reason to get upset and he should spend time w his friends especially during this time of social distancing.

I just guess I’m having trouble deciphering the boundary of what to expect and when to depend on ur significant other enough and not too much, and how much of an independent person you should be in a relationship like this.

Also this is my first very serious relationship!

Thank you in advanced for all the help 💓💓💓