How to carry yourself with an air of femininity?

Well, I’ve got a pickle for you.

My husband and I have been working through some things. In conversation today about what he wants, he said that putting on lingerie a few times a year isn’t what he wants. It’s more about the way someone carries themselves, like with an “air of femininity” and that’s what he finds sexy. He said that I had that in the beginning of our relationship but not so much anymore. (I’m a stay at home mom of a two year old now). I said well if we went out more, I’d dress up more, and he brought it back to not being about what I wear but more about how I carry myself.

So... how do I carry myself with more femininity, more sexiness? To just have that aura about me?

Apparently I lost it somewhere along the line/becoming a mom....

Thanks

*ETA: he was saying that some women can just have that confidence, sexiness about them even if they’re just washing dishes. Regardless of what they’re wearing. (I don’t know if that clarified anything).