Ok so here's the back story:

My fiancé and I live in a 3 bedroom 1 bath house. We rent it, so rent is $500 a month *a steal where we live!* and we also pay utilities which depending on if we are behind or not can go from $130-$250 a month. Anyway when we first moved in his mom hounded us about getting a roommate because we have the space. I quickly shut that down because this is our first home together and I don't see a point in getting one if we can afford our place. We moved in this house in July and fell pregnant in September, which was a total accident but not an unwanted accident as we had a miscarriage January of 2019. We picked out the front bedroom as our sons nursery and have sense accumulated a few items for him.

In December after I started my new job his grandma called and asked if we could let her be our roommate. Now I love his family but I've dealt with living with her before and it's a total nightmare. One I would never want to relive. His sister also asked if she could move in around the same time and we declined both after we talked about it and I put my feelings up front and explained that we are having a baby soon and I don't want to deal with his grandmother. We let it be and carried on.

Come March I put my two weeks in at my job because of the virus and because I was getting absolutely no hours. My manager pulled me aside and told me if I could get my doctors to let me go on a two week self quarantine then I would get paid for my two weeks. I did that and my two weeks are up! But what else happened in March is that my fiancé lost his job due to being sick and not giving enough hours notice even though he gave 5 to out of the 3 days. It's complicated and hard to explain. Anyway his mom was up where his grandma lives and offered her to live with us since we have a spare room. However that room was already claimed because we had talked about using it for my painting for extra cash. But my fiancé thinks we should let his grandma move in since she would help with bills. I had said no multiple times because first of all, we are in a pandemic - I don't know if she's immune or not and my son is due late May! I can't risk his health like that. Plus we already have someone staying on the property - he doesn't live with us and we hardly see him so I call it a win win.

He's upset because I don't want her here but I just don't see how that will help any. Sure she can help with bills but that also means my food stamps will have to stretch out more to accommodate another mouth because she literally ate everything I bought when we lived with her. I was beyond pissed and not to mention she would get upset if we left to go anywhere - with my car. She screamed at my fiancé for countless reasons and got upset when I spent my last bit of money on groceries saying I don't help around the house when I used what little money we had to buy her pepsi so she wouldn't get mean at my fiancé. My fiancé has said she would go by my rules and not intervene with the baby but honestly thats bullshit and he knows it.

I brought up the fact of finishing my studio and he got upset saying he could put my ART WORK out in the mud room so she could have that room. I said no because we already had plans and I'm not going to be here if she stays here because of the virus and I can't get over her disrespectful behavior towards us both. Not to mention she plays the victim all the time and knows we have lives yet tries to guilt trip my fiancé into driving an hour to see her, DO THEIR CHORES and come home. No visiting. Absolutely nothing like that. Plus his mom has a room available as well yet she doesn't want to live with her daughter and her daughters man. Which if someone is desperate then they wouldn't be picky but I find it very hard to understand where his mother thinks she can offer up a room she has no clue about without speaking to us first.

Plus his mom always calls us and berates us for not visiting yet we barely made enough money to cover everything in the town we live. Why would we drive an hour to his moms and hour to his grandmas when we could be saving that gas for an emergency. Not to mention we are having a baby so everything is hectic and we need any money we have to go towards our son. Plus his grandma always says she feels like she's being left out of our sons life but hasn't called to ask about him, messaged me on Facebook because we need to pay her sister for internet *sorry utilities come first!* and then she also hasn't bought him anything but a bucket tub we haven't gotten because she refuses to mail it.

My fiancé thinks we should let her move in, but I personally disagree and I cannot stand her at times. His family is a "see you for maybe 5 hours and leave" type because they say shit that they know pisses me off and I cannot say anything to them without my fiancé getting upset.