Does anyone have any advice after having a laparoscopy salpingectomy??

*backstory*

My husband and I have been trying for 3 years now to have a baby. We’ve went through the testing- Semen analysis, HSG, hormone blood test- etc.

Then FINALLY, in November we found out we were pregnant! At 7 weeks on Thanksgiving, I told my mom, but wanted to tell the rest of the family with a Christmas announcement, so that we would be further into our pregnancy. Unfortunately, the next day I miscarried (November 29th- my sisters birthday). To say we were devastated is an understatement.

Then, the following Friday, I get a call from my sister saying that she just found out that THEY are pregnant. My sister had been on birth control for YEARS and after stopping taking it on their anniversary, she hadn’t been getting a period at all for a few months. But her SECOND month getting one - the next month they were pregnant.

And me and my sister are CLOSE. I’m SO incredibly happy for her and my brother in law and I know that they will be amazing parents.. but it hurt.. bad.

Fast forward to March. I had a normal period in Jan (5th), then normal in Feb (6th)- then March 24th I got my period late. I took the tests and saw the negative, and moved on. But on the 31st- I started bleeding and having a pain on my left side. The pain would come and go, and the bleeding was light- more like spotting than a period. When the pain was at it’s worse, it was a 10- can’t walk can’t move kind of pain.

Finally I called my OB and with everything going on she sent me to triage at the hospital (Monday 4/13). She did an exam and told me that my urine sample I gave on my arrival was positive for pregnancy. After having an ultrasound, they told me that there was a 9cm mass on my left Fallopian tube that would require laparoscopic surgery to see what it was- and they wanted to do surgery that day.

So I got prepped in the OR, kissed my husband, and came out of surgery with one less tube.

The doctor said it was an ectopic pregnancy and it had ruptured, which destroyed that tube, and they had to remove it.

I know that’s a long back story just for some advice, but I am feeling so discouraged in trying and so overwhelmed by loss (while now having to plan my sisters baby shower)- it’s just a lot..

If anyone has any success stories of them conceiving after something like this, please let me know. 💔