We planned for a baby. We tracked ovulation had sex everyday leading up to and through ovulation. We bought numerous tests anxiously waiting for a positive. I’m 8dpo and finally got the positive. At first he was excited, we both were. In a matter of hours he changed his mind and is demanding I have an abortion. I’m refusing but I’m so scared to be a single mom of two kids. I have an 18 month old from a previous relationship. He has a 2 1/2 year old and a ten year old from a previous relationship as well. His reason for wanting the abortion is because his ex is now sober for 12 days and he wants to see if she can stay sober and they can work things out. He also said it will crush his 10 year old son if he had a baby with me because I’m not his mom. I told him he can go back to his family and not worry about me or the baby. He said no that if I have the baby he won’t let me do it alone but he’ll always resent me for keeping it. I can’t live with myself if I have an abortion. I had one when I was 16 and It ruined me. I can’t go through it again. Do I tell him I had an abortion, move out of our house, and keep the baby? Is that selfish and wrong? Should I do what he says and have the abortion even though it will kill me? Can I realistically be a single mom of two babies while finishing college? I know I got myself into this, I’m not looking for the easy way out. No way is the easy way. I believed we wanted this together, we planned it. I’m devastated that he’s leaving me for his ex especially leaving me while pregnant after it’s what he wanted in the first place.

UPDATE: he told his ex I’m pregnant and her response was “oh baby I knew this would happen I love you soooo much you’re my soulmate I’ll help you raise the baby... blah blah blah”

he said to me “if that’s not what true love is I don’t know wheat else”

and left the house to hangout with her.

I just said “I’m happy you found your soulmate”

he’s saying that the baby we made was made out of love and he’s sorry the feelings aren’t there anymore but he wants to support me through the pregnancy and wants to help raise the baby. While he’s with his ex. Fucking comical. I packed my bags and am staying with a friend for the weekend. I blocked his number and he’s been commenting on my Instagram pictures

saying “this was when we were in love baby”

and sending me messages that he’s sorry that he doesn’t feel the same about me but what we had was real at one point and he wants to take care of me and support me as a friend and coparent through the pregnancy. It makes me sick. I want nothing to do with him.