Does it make me a horrible girlfriend if I am less attracted to my boyfriend when he grows out his mustache and beard?

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He can’t grow a full beard or anything so it’s literally just his top lip and chin and I just hate that it’s such little hair and soooo long and I feel like shit for saying it but it’s makes him less attractive to me and I’ve tried to hint at it but he really likes it. Does that make me horrible?

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No it doesn’t make you horrible to feel that way, but I wouldn’t tell him that.

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I mean you can’t help what you’re attracted to. But how you handle it is different. He likes it, so leave him alone about it. Don’t drop hint, don’t say shit.

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I mean, from the way you’ve described it, it sounds like he has a few very long whiskers and not legit facial hair. That doesn’t look good on anyone. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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My partner does it the exact same and I hate it. I’m shit at trying to keep stuff that I don’t like to my self he knows I don’t like it I had to tell him. But he hates shaving says he looks about 10 when he shaves 😂 but when he shaves 😍

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No. I love my husband because of who he is as a person, but his hair and beard are wildly out of control right now and he knows it's not my favourite look on him. He looks very unkempt, but I still love him. You can find certain looks more or less attractive on your boyfriend. It doesn't mean you love him any more or less.

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It’s the opposite for me haha, but no it doesn’t make you a horrible person!

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Thinking he is less attractive because of things like that doesn't make you horrible. We're all more or less attracted to our partners when they're doing certain things with their appearance. I personally don't like clean shaven men and probably would be less attractive with his face shaved. And he occasionally buzzes his own hair, which drives me crazy because I hate shaved heads and he is less attractive to me when he has a shaved head. 
But I don't think we should tell or "hint" that unless they ask. Or unless they've expressed before that they would want to know something like that. It would either make them feel bad or make them feel obligated to change something they like about themselves to make us happy. About 5/6 years into our relationship, my husband started shaving his head. Then after two years, he randomly asked if I liked when he shaved his head and I told him that I didn't. And since then (until quarantine) he hasn't shaved his head, which makes ME feel bad because he obviously liked doing that. But he asked me and I wasn't going to lie. I'd have felt even more guilty if I'd told him that without being asked and he stopped.

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No lol. I don’t like facial hair at all. Every time my boyfriend grows it out even a little I just don’t like it. He knows I don’t like it. It is okay to prefer your partner with different styles. I know mine prefers long hair on me. But we both know we aren’t going to leave one another just because we prefer a different style than what the other likes. He will support me in getting my hair cut if that’s what would make me happy and if he really wanted to grow out a beard, it’s his body and his choice to style his facial hair how he chooses.

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I definitely find my Fwb less attractive when he’s got a beard. It doesn’t suit him and makes him look loads older. Im also not the only person who has told him this. So I don’t feel bad about saying it to him. He didn’t like it when i dyed my hair red. Tbf he was the only person who said it didn’t suit me.

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No it doesn't make you a horrible girlfriend. I've told my boyfriend that I prefer him without any facial hair 🤷‍♀️

Does it make me a horrible girlfriend if I am less attracted to my boyfriend when he grows out his mustache and beard?

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