How do you get through the mum guilt?

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I have a 2 year old daughter who turns 3 next month and I have a 3 month old son. I feel so guilty and I get upset every night because I can't interact with my daughter as much, I feel like I am always saying no, she will ask me to play this and that but most of the time it is when I am feeding my son, I just feel like such a horrible mum at the moment, plus her behaviour is getting a lot worse and I feel like it's my fault because I am not giving her as much attention. I really am trying but I can't help feeling such a rubbish mum, I have no one to talk too. I just feel like such a failure. Anybody else been through the same?

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Same! It never seems like enough for my 3 1/2 yo son. I get down about it too, but I try to think of all the fun he will have with his sister when shes older and try to give some spells of undivided attention other times during the day.
We do "I spy" when I'm nursing and can't be in the floor to play. Sometimes I tell him I can't now because I am taking a break. He is doing more playing in his own. 
You are doing great! Don't be too hard on yourself!!

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Ugh! Yes!  I try to find activities that I can do with him while holding baby but it just isn't the same!

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Here they are on Easter of this year 2020

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Here is my 5 when they were 1 2 3 10 months old  and  newborn I got my tubes untied 8 years after my newborn turned 8

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I have the exact same age spacing! It’s really hard! Especially because I hate standing up in the middle of nursing, but sometimes I have to in order to check on my toddler. It’s also sad when I’m in the middle of playing with him, and the baby starts crying. I say, “oh hang on a minute, I need to go help Cole” and my toddler will say “no mom it’s ok! I’ll help him! He doesn’t need to eat right now I’ll go help him!” And he runs and gives the baby the pacifier so I won’t have to stop playing and feed him 😭. So sad. But I’ve been trying soo hard to play with the toddler recently - the baby is probably the one being ignored now 🤪. Thankfully the baby is really mellow and will always fall asleep on a walk. So I take them both in the double stroller to an elementary school nearly, and bring my toddler’s scooter so he can scoot around there for a while. He loves that and it feels like special time for him because the baby sleeps through it. I also let him watch his favorite show while I feed the baby, so it feels like he gets to do something that he likes instead of just being ignored (plus it keeps him on the couch near me while I’m nursing).

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And my youngest daughter is 3 months old she sleeps though the night she only takes 2 naps in to day time I keep her up buy playing with her talking to her walking her around and my older kids are alot of help as well they keep her up buy screaming at each other

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I have 6 kids hun I no how u feel  my 10 year old always ask me to play with her as well but only when I'm dealing with my other baby girl she is also 3 months old but u do try in make time for her after my 3 month old is asleep

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Born February 8 2020 ariana was 7 pounds and 13 ounces she has a tub in because she wouldn't take the bottle

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