My OBGYN just slut shamed me UPDATE

So last month I was able to get in for my first Pap smear. My state will only do them after 21 so I had to wait. It came back with something that MAY be HPV, they didn’t know if I had it or not, so I set up an appointment with the OBGYN, a male, for a follow up.

It was just him telling me what they found, no tests. I waited a month to be lectured.

And yes, a lecture.

He gives a talk at first about what they found, and then says “I’m not trying to shame you or anything...” tells me how you can ONLY contract HPV through sex. Then asks when I started having sex, I said 18, then asks how many partners I have had. I tell him, 24.

He acts really surprised and goes “wow, that’s an unusually high number for someone your age.” Then asks what I take to prevent pregnancy, I say the pill and condoms.

He then scoffs at me under his breath.

Then he asks how many were unprotected and I say 5, all people I were serious about or told me we’re clean. I tell him repeatedly this men assured they were clean.

He then goes on about how I need to use condoms now, and talks to me like a blonde bimbo whose too dumb to know better. I knew all this information BEFORE I came.

The guy didn’t even ask if I had my HPV vaccines, I had to bring it up.

I then have to inform him I’ve been in a relationship for 5 months and he goes “well does HE know” yes, he knows everything. And then he makes a comment about how my relationship won’t last.

All the while the nurse looks at me like “I’m so sorry”

In the end I left with no new knowledge, a new appointment to ACTUALLY get tested, and feeling disgusting.

What the doctor didn’t know was of the 24 partners, only NINE were consenting.

EDIT:

I definitely am not going to him. Sadly he’s the only OBGYN in my area, the next is about 2 hours away.

UPDATE:

I decided to update with my boyfriends response. I’m a little disappointed but he’s young, and a guy.

He doesn’t know it was for HPV, he was at work and I didn’t wanna bring up the subject.

I told him a slim version:

He asked a bunch of unnecessary questions about my sex life, like the amount, when I started having sex, who was protected and not. And proceeded to slut shame me and said that me and you probably won’t last

And my boyfriend sees no issue in what happened.

He’s typically a sensitive guy, but he thinks it was a normal appointment I’m like no, it’s an OBGYN.

He just said “you need to relax”