Confused

Ive been with my boyfriend 2 years in july. We started off wonderful the first almost year. Things went downhill. We were living with his mom and couldnt seem to find our footing. I had horrible anxiety and depression, panic disorder. I was a mess. I hadnt let my wounds heal from a traumatic relationship and was not doing well. I dont know what happened but everything flooded back to me and stuff snowballed. I got super controlling and didnt even notice i was doing it. The life he had before me got changed dramatically. We ended up having to leave his moms because the cats got fleas and it wasnt being taken care of, we did our part as much as we could but couldnt afford to do the whole house and all nine of his moms cats. We moved in with my mom. Things are still going downhill. Hes stressed out. Hes a car club guy and a while back his car blew up and because of my disgusting controlling ways it didnt get fixed. Now it cant be repaired because the engine is seized. Hes been driving my car. I still havent gotten a job or a license because I have still been struggling with my mental health issues. He started saying he didnt know if we would make it a couple times. Recently it turned into he needed space. He wanted to move in with his mom again and when i got a job, and my license, we would get our own place. He didnt want to break up but he wanted to leave. I guess his moms house still has fleas. He thinks he can get rid of them somehow but my mom said we cant possibly date while hes living there because shes terrified well get fleas here, or our cats will. So then we couldnt do that. Now he says he feels trapped here. Im searching for a job currently, but csnt get my license until the DMVs open back up and everything is a mess. He says he doesnt think anything will get fixed without him getting that space at his moms house. I dont have any idea what to do. I tried to show good faith by getting a loan from my grandmother for him to get the car he was interested in. He was very grateful but it didnt make much of a significant difference. Im so scared even if i do get a job, and a license and we get out of here we wont be okay. I just want to show him i changed and im not controlling anymore. That i can get a job and a license and be okay. At first that was the problem he said we had. That i needed a job and a license. Then he said there was too much drama with me constantly asking for reassurance and getting freaked out and crying over hin leaving that hes stressed out and cant handle it. He said i overreact to things and keep asking him all the same questions. Im freaking out. Ive made so many mistakes. Im so sorry. I just dont know.