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Cut them from your life, that toxicity will eat at you. There is nothing you can do to make them love your baby, they made the choice to disregard you and your baby. Now its time to get rid of the deadweight, you will be much happier without constantly feeling like you are less than enough.
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How do I get over/deal with this?
My family my (mum & nan mostly) love my brothers 4 children but not my little one a few examples would be my mum never bothered to visit my baby ever but flew 5 hours (each way) 3 times during the first year of her life but couldnāt drive 25 mins to come see mine. We have since relocated to be where my brother lives she CONSTANTLY sends my brothers kids things from Xmas event calendars to expensive jewellery. She came over her to visit since we moved & I was told they were having a child free day (they spend all week with them as it was I at this point was only invited once anyway on the last day it was a ākid free dayā that i personally confirmed about 10 times cos I thought it was a joke... later to find out ALL my brothers kids went! one is younger than my 3 year old so itās not an age thing. Iāve pulled my mum up on this to be told bullshit & fuck off & enjoy my life. my family is horrible my mum knew about things my step dad would do and when I tried to tell her as a young teen she told me to fuck off if I was going to try āruin her lifeā yet they are all normal happy lovely family when it comes to my brother! my brother recently even just cheated on his wife & had a 5th baby to a random & they love that baby the same also WTF is wrong with my kid it makes me so so so made & hurt. How do I get past this it eats me up inside! Help me please please Iāll be forever greatful! I just feel like my little one only has me & her dad my dad is good he is close with all the kids! He lives near us thatās why we moved. It also just hurts to see them all comment on their fb photos & ignore my little one I donāt get it.
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My family is similar to this, now for the past nearly 10 years i only see them once a year and limit how much contact i have with them. I have much more confidence now than i ever did before, and i never question that there are people who care for my children apart from myself the their dad
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This 100% I still struggle not to let those thoughts sneak in and itās even harder if youāre keeping up with the ones causing you pain.
Iām sorry you have to deal with this I know it can be heartbreaking. My mom and dad favor my sister and now her twins that are three months older than my daughter. I ended up cutting them out. I tried talking to them again about it and it turned into a huge fight and I decided I donāt want my Orenās breaking my daughters heart or making her feel less than my sisters kids. At family stuff my aunts and cousins call and say my parents only talk about the twins like my daughter doesnāt exist so at least Iām not the only one to see it. A lot of my family thinks they are jealous of my life and over compensate and kiss my sisters ass because her life isnāt as good. Donāt feel bad if you cut them out for your own happinessā¤ļø
I have no family that comes and visits my son. His grandpa has seen him a handful of times since birth. Grandmother none but sheās in prison. There is nothing wrong with your child and donāt ever let him hear you say that. The problem is your mom just like for me the problem is my family. Iām the outcast and so is my child Ik when my sister has a baby it will annoy the shit out of me if my family is all about her baby and at that point any and everyone who shows favoritism for my sisters children over mine are going to be cut out. Iāve been the outcast my whole life. I was that little girl watching her sister get birthday and Christmas presents from family that barely looked my way. I will not put my children in that situation to suffer through those feelings of something being wrong with them. So my advice is forget your family and focus on the one youāre building. Youāre all the love your baby needs.
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