Am I weird? Newborn thoughts

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Me and hubby have been wanting our angel baby for a really long time. We went through a lot of sadness thinking maybe neither of us were able to conceive. I felt like a horrible woman and even got a bit depressed because I thought wow I really cant even carry a child? We went through so much together, we would cry in the shower together just holding each other. When we found out we were pregnant we were both on cloud 9 and happier than ever to say the least. I didn’t realize how protective I have been becoming since pregnant of my unborn baby. When I found out we were having a boy I became even MORE protective in a sense of I just want to be the best mom he could ever have and I know I will be. But also I noticed that when I had ultra sounds I didn’t want to show anyone aka put it on facebook or social media you know. I showed our family and only my closest friends those pictures. Even the 3D ones took me a while to send to my closest friends I only sent them to family... he’s just so perfect and even though I would love to show him off I just have become such a private and protective mother. He will be born any time now and my best friends keep talking to me (I know they’re excited) but I feel like when he’s born I only want to send pictures to our family members, and I don’t want those pictures to be resent to anyone. Am I weird because of this? I also told one of my best friends that if I do send her a picture, that I don’t want her to send those pictures or show them to anyone. She said thats fine and then proceeded to ask me why. First of all I feel like she already knows how I am as a person.. So why wouldn’t she know the reason why I don’t want to be posting my babies picture everywhere? My answer to her was that I am a very protective mom and that I don’t see the need of people who aren’t close to me in any way to see pictures of him. I also told her this is a very special moment for us and we want it to to be private. She always answers pretty quick and she hasn’t answered that message in over an hour.... do you think Im weird for this?? (Maybe when he’s a month or two or three I will post pictures of him(or whenever the fuck I want for that manner) but for now I just don’t see the need to do that I don’t live off of social media nor do I care about people who are not in my life- I might sound a bit selfish but I really only care about my husband and family and close friends-but my family means everything to me) I never felt weird about it till maybe now... just wanted to hear your opinions on this. Am I weird for this?? And also I wanted to mention that no one really knows how bad me and my husband wanted this baby. It was so hard on us.... it broke my heart for a very long time thinking There was something wrong with me... I will forever cherish this moment and I just want it to be us enjoying it as long as we want to together..

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Yeah your being way way over protective and weird

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I honestly feel this 100% because I’m going to be the same exact way when my little girl is born in July! It’s something that feels so special and shouldn’t be shared unless it’s coming from the parents themselves! I don’t want my baby all over Snapchat or insta or even the fact that she was born unless it’s coming from me!

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We don't share pics of our kids on social media, nor did I announce my pregnancy on social media. I also just send pics here and there to friends I actually talk to.  I'm okay with my parents showing the pics to our close family friends when they see them, or when they come to their house, but I don't want them emailing them to everyone. Since when does your personal life need to be everyone's business? I know that's less common than not these days with social media, but that's the "everyone's doing it" mentality. You're not a sheep. If you're not comfortable with it, then that's your prerogative. I don't think it should be because you're walking on eggshells because you had difficulty conceiving. You don't want to raise your baby with anxiety by handling him with silk gloves all the time, that's not healthy. But if you're not comfortable with photos being shared, that's your right. 
It's funny how everyone says, your baby your rules, until it's something that they personally don't do or relate to. Then all of a sudden, you're weird. That's not how it works.

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You do you. Stop asking for others’ advice and be confident in your parenting choices. There will be a lifetime of choices you’ll make. Get used to pushback ❤️

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It's your child and you can do as you please. Every one else's opinions are irrelevant. Don't worry about what anyone thinks. I was the exact same way with my 3 for a while.  I mean for the longest time the only social media pics of them I posted would be of the back of their heads. Or in a way that their faces were hard to see. Too many people are nutty now a days. Plus we have family who have no business with pics of my kids because I'm not trying to help any body play Facebook aunt, or Facebook cousin or whatever else.

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Personally I think it’s being overprotective. I can completely understand not wanting others posting pictures of your child without your permission but I wouldn’t expect my dad not to show a picture of his grandchild to a friend of his.

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I don’t think it’s weird that you don’t want the pictures on social media, but I do think it’s weird that you don’t want to send pictures to your friends. I love getting pictures from friends when their baby is born. And I feel so proud of my kids and how cute they are, that I love when people ask to see pictures. While I know everyone is not the same, I still think it would be weird if a friend didn’t want to share pictures. 
Also, you can’t expect others to understand how you feel. So, if they ask why you don’t want to share pictures, then have an answer ready so that you can respectfully explain how you feel.

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I think most will see it as being weird or over protective. It very well may be that. But I think it’s something else entirely. It could be because you are your husband wanted this for so long. Your son is a precious gift and you want to control who is able to be part of his life or see him. Whether it’s through a photo or in person. I completely get that and ultimately it is your decision what you do. You will be his parents and it is your choice who to share him with. Maybe your friend was taken back by your reply a bit because she felt that she wouldn’t ever do they. But you felt to be clear about not sending your sons picture out. I wouldn’t worry about it too much because again this is ultimately your baby, your life, and what you want.

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Im 30 weeks pregnant and no one even knows im pregnant aside from the father and my parents. Haven’t shown anyone an ultrasound or posted on social media. So I definitely dont think what you’re doing is weird. When she’s born i dont think I’ll post her, at least not for a while. Maybe I’ll send texts to my parents but if I do i dont see why they would post or send them. If someone sent me a picture of their kid i wouldnt send it to anyone nor would I post it. That’s weird in my opinion

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I agree to a point. I’m not going to say I’ll never share photos with friends/family but in this digital age you have to assume that once it is out there it is out there. I feel most strongly about first/birth photos because they feel much more personal and special. To each their own though!

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