When we first started dating we asked the question, “do you want more kids?” Both of us

When we first started dating we asked the question, “do you want more kids?” Both of us were in agreeance... “nope!” We each had our own very active boys and that was more than good for us. As time went on, we would hypothetically talk about having a child together. “Since we’re such a great team, it would be pretty amazing to experience that together. But ya, our lives are already crazy so NOPE.” We we’re still good with the way things were. . It was one evening when we sat down to mind map our year at a glance (yep, I make him mind map - it is sooo helpful to visually see plans and goals... it’s the teacher in me) that we just couldn’t stop thinking about adding a baby into our lives. “It would tie all of us together. It would complete our blended family. It would bond the boys.” The list of reasons WHY went on and on, but the biggest reason why was the fear of regret. We didn’t want to wake up 10 years from now and wish that we had jumped on the opportunity when we had it. And in a perfect world (one where I was younger or in one where age didn’t matter in the case of fertility and childbearing), we would have gotten engaged, had a quaint wedding, and then started trying for a baby. Since that’s not the case (hello 40 this year), we went against traditional societal ways (as I typically do in life) and went for the baby first. . After a few months, one miscarriage, and countless pregnancy tests later, our wish came true. This was an emotional night for us. I was afraid my body wouldn’t cooperate with what our hearts wanted, but this test alleviated my worries and Chris and I became even more bonded than ever... and I wouldn’t change a thing about our story and how we got here. 🌈