A serious question of my long-term or married ladies

Hi all,

I have been married for 3 year. We’ve been together for 7. During our dating, we had sex regularly and often. Once we got married, he traveled a lot and we maybe saw each other a couple of times a month. We were of course intimate when we would see each other those times, but obviously our sex life dropped off because of the distance.

He’s been home consistently now for about 1.5 years and he is unhappy with our sex life. We normally have sex once a week and honestly that is good enough for me. I can hardly bring myself to have sex more than that. He consistently shames me about the lack of sex and isn’t really willing to talk about changes we could make or any constructive criticism.

At this point, it is affecting our relationship. I don’t know what to do - I know I am somewhat afraid if I we don’t have sex more often then he might cheat one day in the future. In the same vein, I don’t like to feel pressured to do something I’m not interested in if there’s no willing to listen to new ideas from his side.

If you’ve been with your partner for a similar amount of time, what is your sex life like? Is this normal for couples? Am I wrong for not just doing it anyway?