Does he want to be in the babies life or not?
Sorry guys I didn’t know which one to post this on.
I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with my ex’s baby. We were together for 2 yrs and some change. When I first told him I was pregnant he told me he didn’t want the baby and for me to terminate the pregnancy. However, when we were together we were trying to have a child together etc and he was not doing anything to prevent it.
So after I told him and we got into the whole argument, 1 week and a half after that he reached out to me and told me why he hasn’t contacted me etc. He had gotten a new job and was trying to get his life together.
I told him I was still upset about what he said to me and our argument and he told me it was because he was stressed out and didn’t know what to do. His life was a shit show at the time and he was feeling down.
He told me to come over and I did and we had sex. (We’ve been broken up since January but we still kept in touch every week or every 2 weeks & have sex ) AND YES before anyone comments about this, I am aware that this is toxic. Which is why I am stopping now.
Anyways, while I was still at his place, he told me we’re going to get back together etc. but I’m pretty sure it’s him just talking out his ass. I told him I was going to have an ultrasound done the next day and asked if he wanted to come and he told me he’ll see. Basically just brushed it off.
So I went to the ultrasound alone (he didn’t call or text) we have mutual friends and I saw that he was drinking on Snapchat so I figured he was hungover.. I didn’t want to reach out to him because I wanted to see if he would.
After the ultrasound, I got pictures of the baby to take home so I texted it to him. He still has not replied back to me since Saturday. After I sent the picture and I didn’t get a reply 4 hours later, I texted him saying “ok I guess?” And still nada. Lol at this point I feel like he’s going to pop up again in a week or 2 and tell me he was going thru a lot and yada yada. I will be just fine if he doesn’t want any part of it.
But my question is, should I continue to reach out to him and involve him, or wait for him to?
**added note** we each have a kid from our previous relationships as well. So this will both be our 2nd.
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.