Everything has to be perfect?

For us, yes. She's super intent on things being done a certain way and emotional when it doesn't get done right. Also, yes. She always wants to be so repetitive with everything that she found fun especially because she's hit her "threes" early and it feels like we are correcting her behavior and telling her no all day now so the fun things I think she super latches onto.

Toddlers are very specific. They’re just learning how to be able to make decisions on what they want and how they want to do it and so take this to extremes. My toddler will freak out at me if I put her in a shopping cart and don’t do the seatbelt up in the first 2 seconds (she knows it needs to be done and if it’s not done instantly, it freaks her out). Also we have to wrap her up as a burrito after a bath immediately and for at least 10 mins before she will consider getting dressed. She HAS to have the matching plate to her silverware for dinner (god help us if I serve on a Peppa pig plate and give her a Disney Princess fork). Deffo a normal toddler thing...

Yasss girl I came for this. At bedtime every night , my daughter wants a piggy back ride to get her milk out of the fridge with one scoop of Nesquick and she Has to scoop it. It can not be shaked. The chocolate powder has to sink to the bottom (she checks to make sure by looking for a brown ring around the cup). Then she needs the ‘cozy blanket’ wrapped on her like a burrito and if her toe is poking out or if anything is not covered, game over. Then it’s Paw Patrol but it has to be the Dragon episode. Or else... full on meltdown 🤯 If all of that is successful then I can breathe a small sigh of relief

I am pretty sure the repeating a thousand times thing is normal, just like being attached to routines. I'm not sure how much attachment to the routine is normal.Nowadays my daughter won't put her socks on simply. She'll put one on (or let me do one) and then she'll play that get other foot is scared and we need to play out the whole thing with reassurances and checking for scary things and giving the foot time to make its mind up. Every. Single. Time.Sometimes she gets an idea in her head, like the neighbor kid started crying because mine took her toy duckies away, and she repeated the discussion on it until I refused to take part in the conversation (it was nap time). Why did she cry? Because you took her toy away. Why did she cry? Because... Why did she cry?... Why did she cry? Again and again and again. I tried explaining it in different ways and it doesn't seem to make a difference at all, she will still repeat the same questioning again and again.We had the same repeating thing with blowing bubbles, pushing toy cars, tossing her into the trampoline, squirting water in the bathtub... She usually goes at it as long as she can.