Deciding to not involve my Toxic Family...

Recently there has been some family drama. It’s been real bad to the point I cry to my SO everyday. My family has always been a dysfunctional mess for as long as I can remember. Point is, this time its been years since something this big has happened and I’m now in my 20’s and due in 2 months with my own home. This pregnancy was successful due to IVF. My SO and I struggled to get pregnant. And now this is happening and it’s caused me to stress, cry, and have constant arguments with my family.

My sibling really finally pushed me and said some awful things to me because I was leaning in not “choosing a side” and thinking I was and saying I’m choosing the opposite side on what he thinks is right. 🙄. He called out that I’m pregnant and no one wants to “hurt my feelings because I have two dead children” so that’s why he needs to argue with me about what’s going on. (My baby passed away due to SIDS and had a miscarriage a couple months later, all in the same year years ago) that’s what finally hit me hard.

I’m deciding to cut ties with my family because of how they talk to me or how they want me to be involved in “their side” of the situation. It’s all childish to me honestly. I can’t help but cry still thinking I won’t have my mom and siblings near my child because of how they are and think. I just need to know if anyone else has a toxic family and is not having contact with them or deciding not to ... I need some advice on how to handle it.

My SO and I made up our minds, we don’t want their mess impacting our soon to family that we dedicated so much time into to even get pregnant ...