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Edit: the main issue is my feelings on the situation are being dismissed and I'm being made to feel like what i say doesn't matter. It's like his family is coming to me to ask me, then if I say no, they go to him and tell him how wrong I am etc...then we fight because he sides with them.

It's like when a kid asks 1 parent then the other to get their way. That's a huge issue. I get what all of you are saying, but my feelings should be respected regardless.

If something made you really uncomfortable regarding your kids, would you give into people attacking your decision?

I have anxiety. Really bad. And while I do my best not to let it control others in my life..it sometimes does...especially my children. I'm in a feud with my husband's family for this reason, and instead of backing me, hes on their side..please help me try to understand if I should be ok with it or fight for what I feel.

Out of all of my fears, water is the biggest. I have nearly drowned 4 times as a child...never was taught to swim so I just as well stay away from situations regarding that. Now, make no mistake, I will get in a kiddie pool, but nothing bug and definitely no bodies of water.

With the weather changing, everyone wants to go to creeks, or lakes or even swimming pools.. which I wont do...and with my 5 year old makes it hard. I have stepped foot in a creek, the water was about 2 foot high and she played.

They want to take my daughter on a boat in a lake and take her swimming in a 4 foot pool. And I said absolutely not...not without me...plus I'm not swimming. Which means I dont want to stand in the heat either.

My husband...and his family are pretty scatter brained. Not that they wouldn't watch her, but not like they should. On top of there are 4 other kids my daughters age or younger. It takes a split second to drown...trust me I know. They're talkers and just arent aware. Or they'll leave 1 person to watch them all...who also cant swim. Floaties or not, I'm just not comfortable.

They say I'm ruining her childhood and that I'm always saying no, and my husband is backing them and not me. He wants to take her himself and again, I just dont feel comfortable because I know he'd venture off and leave her with his sister who doesnt even watch her own kids...nor can swim.

I feel like they're dismissing my feelings and making me out to be the bad guy, that I'm constantly controlling everything. I've expressed my fears and now I'm told they'll just basically go behind my back when I'm working and do it anyway.

Can I get them to understand? Am I wrong??