FTM, how do you balance your needs with you child's needs?

Question

I'm a FTM and work full time. I've been struggling with guilt when I need to do things for the house or something for myself like workout or hang out with a friend on the weekend.
When he is awake I want to hangout with him since I don't get a whole lot time with him between naps and bedtime and feel guilty if I'm not there when he is awake. Are you guys always with your LO, do you feel guilty if you aren't?
How do you cope with this?

Answer

I’m the same way . I stopped working out because I felt too tired . But now I hang out with my friends and I tag him along . Before this pandemic I would give myself a few hours to do stuff for me . But now that everything’s closed I bring him along. 
It’s HARD. I tell my friends all the time when you have a baby it’s not about you anymore 🙃😓I struggle with it

Answer

Try not to beat yourself up.  You’re aloud to take care of yourself too.  I try to look forward to the smile and rush I get when I see my little man again instead of worrying about all the what if’s while I’m away and have confidence in knowing he’s safe and well cared for.  I know it’s hard to ignore the guilt, but you need that self care to feel good and confident. You’re a good mom to care so much💕

Answer

Honestly, my “me” time is usually because I placed a target drive up order. So I drive the 30 ish minutes to go get it while my son is home with his father. I usually get about an hour and a half (give or take) to myself. 
I did have one day where it was so bad I passed off my son at 4:30 when his father walked in and went upstairs. Took a bath for a while, then sat in our recliner we have in our room and relaxed. But because of COVID and working from home, I really don’t get much “me” time so I don’t really feel that bad about it when i do get it 🤷🏼‍♀️

FTM, how do you balance your needs with you child's needs?

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